Arranging a Funeral After Suicide

It's always an immense struggle to process the death of a loved one, even when the death was not unexpected, such as due to your loved one's age or health. When your loved one took their own life, the emotional turmoil can be nothing short of overwhelming. Not only must you acknowledge the loss, but you're left grappling with the question as to why your loved one made the decision to commit suicide. Not only that, but you also have to make the necessary arrangements for a funeral, followed by burial or cremation. 

Preliminary Matters

A death by suicide is typically referred to the county coroner for investigation. This does not imply suspicious circumstances, and it's usually just a formality to confirm the manner of death, which can sometimes require an autopsy. This process is usually relatively brief, and it means that a death certificate can be issued, which allows the deceased's remains to be released to the nominated funeral home.

Grief and Guilt

Funeral services for someone who took their own life don't have to be any different than a funeral for someone who passed away due to any other cause. Perhaps the most difficult aspect of arranging a funeral for a loved one who committed suicide is the trauma associated with the manner of death. Grief is often mixed with a sense of guilt, which can make the logistics of planning a funeral feel like it's too much to bear. Don't be afraid to reach out to another family member or trusted friend to assist you with arranging the funeral. They could even take over the lion's share of the duties, but as they're not next of kin, you might still be required to consult on certain decisions.

Specifics of the Funeral

One difficult decision to make is whether the funeral should feature an open casket. It can be an exceptionally distressing thought, but it must be acknowledged that the manner in which your loved one took their own life can mean that an open casket may not be appropriate. Depending on any information that your loved one left behind, you might already have guidance as to whether they had a preference for burial or cremation. Please note that this information may have been recorded in their will if they left one. If their preferences are unclear, you and other family members will need to make a decision, based upon what is most practical.

A suicide can be extraordinarily traumatic for those left behind. While there are a few considerations specific to suicide, the basic details of a funeral won't differ, allowing you and other mourners to come together and grieve, and to give your loved one a proper farewell.

Reach out to a funeral home to get help planning the funeral services.